Most parents want their children to learn how to become independent so that when they are on their own they have a better understanding of how to engage the world with confidence. There are those, however, who take independence to an extreme level. These individuals are not only self-reliant but also fearful of ever needing to rely on anyone else. Their fear is known as soteriophobia.
Individuals who has this fear may be more than reluctant to receive help – they will refuse the help and may become angry if there is an insistence in helping. They will attempt to do the most difficult tasks alone and will express no need for help of any kind. They will attempt to move from one location to the next on their own and they will work at managing home and car repair on their own. Other symptoms may include frustration, trembling, screaming, anger, anxiety, and elevated heart rate.
The truth is soteriophobia may be one of the most difficult fears to treat because in order to get help you have to admit a need.
That being said, a therapist can help you determine why you have the fear and why the fear is based on a lie. No matter who you are there will always be a need for help from others. We are created for interdependence – relying on others while we work to reach our own personal goals.