Dating, kissing and foreplay are always present in every relationships and for most of us, these are pleasurable, fun and exciting ways of spending time with the one we love. But for some people, these can be quite stressful and anxiety provoking. Fear of love play is known as Malaxophobia or Sarmassophobia.
This phobia is often associated by persistent fear of situations, objects, activities or persons that involves love play. This fear could have been a conditioned response because one knows that love play could lead to sex and this person might have an underlying fear of sex, rape, or of getting pregnant. Some might have an underlying notion that sex is bad as was taught to them by their parents or taught to them by their priest or pastor. Most of the people who fear love play are conservative women who were taught by their parents not to lose their virginity before getting married.
The main symptom is avoiding the thing feared. People may have intimate relationship problems and are often unhappy with their love life. This fear may have sprung from a traumatic event with a lover or even a dating game or even just a previous traumatic encounter.
People who have this fear needs psychotherapy to guide them regarding the facts and understanding the irrational fears that they have.